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Co-parenting and household rules after a divorce

It can be important for divorced parents in New Jersey to establish consistent rules for their young children as they move between households. These could range from rules about bedtimes to video games to how children dress. The actual substance of some of these rules is less important than that children get a sense of security from their consistency. Parents should be prepared to compromise although there may be points on which they feel they cannot budge. If they know what these points are ahead of time, negotiations might go more smoothly.

How to deal with a difficult cparent

New Jersey estranged couples with young children may struggle to co-parent after their marriage comes to an end. One parent might be particularly difficult. This could be a temporary situation that resolves itself once the parent adjusts to the divorce. However, whether or not this happens, as long as the conflict does not involve issues such as addiction or abuse, there may be ways to ameliorate the situation.

Nesting eases burden on children during a divorce

Many children of divorced New Jersey couples live in a shared custody arrangement that involves them moving back and forth between the homes of their parents. To reduce the disruption, a strategy called nesting has attracted the attention of some parents willing to try something different, at least in the short term.

Putting children's needs first in a New Jersey divorce

In most cases, divorced parents must set aside their personal feelings about each other and behave in ways that are in the best interests of their children. This might mean having to take them at their word when they make what seem like poor choices or disrupt a schedule. Parents should also avoid venting their frustrations about each other in front of their children. While it is important that parents take care of themselves so that they are able to continue to parent effectively, they must not do so at the expense of the children. Parents who need additional support may want to turn to friends or a therapist.

How a move might disrupt visitation after a divorce

When they divorce, New Jersey parents might plan to remain near one another so that their children do not undergo too much disruption. If a custodial parent decides to move due to an involvement with a new partner, this can create complications for the other parent and for the child. The child might feel isolated in a new community, and the other parent might struggle with the commute. There may also be tension between the new partner and the ex-spouse.

Primary caretakers and child custody

As New Jersey parents see their marriages coming to an end, they might wonder about how custody issues will be decided by a judge. One of the leading factors contributing to a decision about primary custody can be the pattern already established in a family. The value of the primary caretaker's role in the child's life can be linked to psychological stability, which can influence a judge's decision.

Frustrations parents have with child custody decisions

When New Jersey parents get divorced, one parent is often granted primary physical custody of their children while the other is typically given some visitation rights. However, in many cases, this results in the non-custodial parent being shut out, even when they share legal custody.

The importance of creating a parenting plan

All New Jersey parents who are going through a divorce, should have a parenting plan that sets the boundaries and provides stability for the children. Sharing the children can go past the day they turn 18, especially when grandchildren show up. By coming up with a parenting plan when the children are young, arguments and future problems can be kept to a minimum.

Domestic violence issues in family courts

If New Jersey courts follow national patterns, domestic abuse might not be treated as seriously in family legal disputes as in criminal courts. One of the primary reasons for this disparity is that family court judges tend to evaluate custody matters in light of domestic violence scenarios based on whether a child has been abused or not. Domestic abuse of a parent might not preclude the abuser from having unsupervised contact, which could provide an avenue for continued abuse of that other party.

Making a parenting plan for the holidays

Deciding who the kids spend time with during holidays in a divorce can be difficult and emotional. There are certain holidays that both parents definitely want to spend with the children, and the children can often end up being pulled in different directions. So how can New Jersey parents make an arrangement that benefits the children and still allows the parents to share certain holidays with them? One way is to make a parenting plan.